The value of deuterogamy
When people marry, they always think about their future with enthusiasm and are very optimistic about it. Indeed, only optimism and hopes that everything will be ok make people venture to commit this determining step. As for pessimists, they prefer to avoid risks, as they know from other people's experience that in the majority of cases, marriages result in failure.
Marriage requires maturity, responsibility for the family and the ability to temporize with each other. This is a very difficult, if feasible, task for young people, who begin their adult life and are very inexperienced to reach harmony in their family relations. Hope, enthusiasm and optimism alone are not enough to create a firm and friendly family. It is very easy to love each other and take care of each other when everything is ok, when there are no financial and psychological problems, but it is well-known that such perfect and favourable conditions have never existed in this world. Married people always have to put up with various hardships and trials. Time falls everything into place and checks the firmness of family relations.
Unfortunately, the majority of families fail to withstand the test of time. There are many reasons for that, such as lack or absence of experience, inability to find a golden middle in household issues, reluctance to reach mutual understanding, etc. Besides, people sometimes understand that they have mistaken their match. Even long-term acquaintanceship doesn't always allow a person to understand if he/she has made the right choice. All these negative factors make coexistence of two different impossible and inevitably lead them to a divorce.
Divorce, however, is a perfect motive to weigh everything up, to learn a lesson from has been gone through and try to start a qualitatively new life without former mistakes and failures. Experience shows that remarriage is often stronger than first marriage and is a second chance for a person to start all over again.
All people must have a right to make mistakes and correct them. Statistics show that remarriages break up rarer than first marriages and are usually marked by higher level of responsibility and better family relations. If creation of a good family is a main value for a person, then each negative family experience and divorce is a next step for reaching this goal.