The value of children
The birth of children is the happiest moment in life of newly-made parents. Have you ever thought why this event is taken by different people in a different way? Why some people treat their children as gift from on high and others consider them to be a burden? Let's consider these questions and try to understand why it happens so.
In our everyday life we make choices all the time. When you wake up in the morning, you think whether you should get up at once or to lie in the bed for some time, whether you should eat something or simply drink a cup of tea or coffee, etc. We make choice when it goes about trifles and when we make fatal decisions. The same refers to childbirth. Every day millions of women all over the world make a choice if it is high time to plan to bear a child or to postpone it. This choice depends on many reasons: the availability of a reliable life companion, work, wage rates, housing conditions, etc. Besides, there is a great number of outer reasons, which are very difficult to enumerate. The main guideline, which determines our choice, is our set of values and life principles.
All our values and principles can be divided into several groups. The first group is our emotions. There are people who are guided by their emotions in all life situations. For such people their emotions are their main value and they tend to consider all other values as secondary with respect to this one. People, who stick to materialistic approach to life, consider pecuniary aspects of life to be the main value. They think that all other values are secondary, as they can be bought, as well as all everything else in this life. There is also a group of people, who consider life to be the end in itself and the main value in their lives. Such people tend to take care about their families, children, health and life itself.
On the assumption of types of people, given above, we can suppose that people, belonging to the last group, will make their choice in favour of childbirth, as they build their life, basing on vital values and principles.
Understanding of one's values and values of surrounding people determines the choice about childbirth. If a woman has made up her mind to have a child, she has to stand up for her choice, as her husband and relatives may have other values.
Fortunately, the majority of people nowadays still stick to vital values, but it is sometimes difficult for them to live in reconciliation with these values. This fact allows us not to be so pessimistic and hope, that if people will be able to cope with their life problems, they will switch over to eternal values and that there's always next time.